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I think the people who get upset are those who also have difficulty disposing of items.

So if their parents don't do the hard sorting job, making sure that items get sent to appropriate caretakers who will love and cherish the cut glass, the real wood furniture, their china that no one wants, all the books... then the children need to do it and they resent it because they can't just throw it all away. They feel they need to respect the objects and find them a good home.[/quote]

I disagree as well. Even though my parents have some "finer things", the problem for me is that they expect us to do the work they should have done years ago. I'm the youngest and I'm 50+, we all have our own stuff to the brim. And to be honest, if they would have given away some over the past 40-50 years, these things would have been appreciated. Now they aren't. There's just too much and it's all too old. What I'm especially sad about is that my dad has some fantastic books... well, they're too heavy and too far, so... and yes, my childhood piano, that nobody has played on for 30+ years. PSA: give what you can to young ones in their 20-30 age range, once people start their own families and buy their own stuff, they will not want yours. [/quote]

This is a bizarre take.  When I was 30, my mom was 55 and very much enjoying her fancy china ( she still occasionally does).  Why would she give it to me then?  Yes, that probably means once she is gone it will be donated instead of staying in the family, but so what.  [/quote]

Heh seriously. They should have given it away 50 years ago? When they were - what, 30?

Guys, stuff is going to be a problem. No matter what, it is going to be a problem. It'll be awful. [b]It's not your parents' job to live like monks[/b] in order to make it slightly less awful.[/quote]

Can you really not see any middle ground between "living like monks" and borderline hoarding, to the point where things are mildewing and deteriorating from being buried in stacks but never accessible?[/quote]

*I* can but the people on this thread don't seem to see the difference. They're complaining about furniture, collectibles, china, everything like that in addition to the papers and sh** that are all in the basement. That is LIFE.

[b]Obviously people who are actual hoarders have a different situation.[/b][/quote]

You ... are excluding hoarding from the discussion but insist on framing others as saying their parents have to live like monks and only leave jewelry behind?

That's not seeing the middle ground. That's hiding behind claiming everyone is misunderstanding you by assuming the extreme, but then doing exactly that to everyone else.[/quote]

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