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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The point of this thread is that stuff shouldn't be a problem and accumulating it shouldn't be the purpose of your life. [b]There is a big difference between living like a monk and a 5-bedroom house full of stuff to the brim, which has been accumulating for 40-50 years.[/b] You don't have to give your stuff away when you're 30, as you don't have much then anyway, but in your 50s you should think that you don't live forever and pass some stuff on to kids/grandkids/anyone who would find your stuff that you no longer need useful. Like your kids' piano, that you don't know how to play. I mean does this really needs being spelled out? [/quote]

Yes, some of the comments on this thread remind me of a conversation with my husband.

Me: We need to clean out the garage.
Him: Okay, I just won't have anything!

Um, no I didn't say we had to get rid of EVERYTHING.
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except the people on this thread are speaking as if having more than two sets of cutlery and two plates means you're a selfish boomer.

people who hoard - that's a real problem.

people who've accumulated the normal life's amount of stuff and haven't dealt with it when they get older - it's normal. it sucks and it's normal.

people who clean our their stuff regularly because that's how they like to live and they are also thinking of how this'll be for someone down the road? that's wonderful! do more of that! we also like to purge our stuff because it's nice for US to have a less cluttered house.[b] but we're under no obligation to do so because one day the people who inherit our stuff will have to spend three days cleaning instead of one.[/b][/quote]

You know, not feeling any obligation at all in regards to what you will leave behind for younger people to deal with after you are gone really does seem to be kind of a generational thing. I don't think it will persist as time goes on. [/quote]

You know, the insistence that the whole world revolves around you and everyone should be bending over backwards to accommodate you and validate your feelings seems to be a generational thing too.  People are entitled to live in their own houses the way they like it.[/quote]

Sure. And other people get to judge you when you make poor decisions because you can't see anything between the most histrionic extremes. You are in charge of you, and other people get to feel how they do about you. Sorry. [/quote]

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