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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick? [/quote]

The support system should be the father. [/quote]

Surely, you can comprehend that there are other support systems for raising children like grandparents and aunts and uncles, etc.? And that likewise, not all husbands function well as either support systems or fathers? Why do you think so many people get divorced? [/quote]

You’re suggesting that because some fathers may not function well, op doesn’t need one. 
Btw, some mothers don’t function well. 
You’re already putting the child at a disadvantage because of other “fathers and husbands.” [/quote]

No, I’m not suggesting that at all. OP didn’t find a great man and she’s 37 and she earns enough money and wants to be a mom. It’s basically now or never. I’m suggesting that OP should go ahead and make her dream to be a mom come true and that she doesn’t need a man to do it. Would it be better to have a great husband on this road to parenthood? Of course! But that didn’t happen yet and she doesn’t have much time to waste looking for one. Maybe she can give it another year or two, but chances are she’ll just get desperate and choose a not so great guy because of it. She’s much better off doing it alone.

What I don’t think she should do is accept your ridiculous view that she must have a man to be a mom and that because she doesn’t have one, should resign her life to being a spinster with cats or dogs or whatever it is you think people unlucky in love must do instead of having children.

And I also think she’s far more likely to find a decent man down the road when she’s not desperate. [/quote]

What you are suggesting is not what is best for a child.
The derogatory name you call single women is so sexist and offensive. Not all “spinsters” have lives revolves around having cats or dogs. 
What a way to put women down! Sexist ass [/quote]

Ireland just enacted legislation redefining the notion of a family. Kids adapt and no, it’s not a big deal to grow up with one excellent parent who cares. I had a much better life growing up with my single mom than my poor child who was torn after divorce between two houses [/quote]

Statistically children are worse off with single parents. No amount of wishing ot cheerleading changes that. [/quote]

Not if the parents were educated and one or both parents are UMC. Plus you have to compare it to the children of dysfunctional couples who stay together, those outcomes aren’t great either.[/quote]

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