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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some women's bodies don't bounce back from childbearing as some other women's bodies do.

Most regular working women don't have the multiple hours per day to put into fitness routines and cooking super clean healthy meals, even if her children and husband would eat that food if she did.

[b]How much of the housekeeping and life management are you doing, OP? How much of the childcare and shuttling to activities are you doing? How much shopping and cooking? How much time are you giving her to sleep, to engage in fitness, etc?[/b]

There are seasons to life, OP. Sounds like you have most of what makes a very good marriage and your wife's body paid the price to give you two beautiful children.

So yeah, you can be sad that youth has passed you by and you and your wife aren't hotties anymore, but please don't expect an outpouring of sympathy. [/quote]

We have a live-in nanny/housekeeper and I do my fair share of chores/childcare. We both exercise regularly. I think it comes down to eating too much. Or not cutting back with metabolism being slower. [/quote]
If she exercises regularly, then she's "not letting herself go".  I can see being annoyed if she's not trying. Likely her hormones are causing it.  You have no idea what women go through to bear children and dthen peri-menopause/menopause.  Grow up and care about the important things. [/quote]

I hear the menopause argument from my overweight (200+ pounds) perimenopausal wife. My question is why don't ALl women have significant weight problems post-menopause.[/quote]

Women gain an average of 35 pounds post menopause.  
Does your mom look like she did in her wedding photo?  Did your grandmother when you were growing up?  Have you ever followed any biography or documentary about a woman who isn’t a model or actress?  Most people gain weight as they get older.  [/quote]

I am the OP. My wife gained 70 pounds over 18 years before even hitting perimenopause. Are you saying she has 35 more unavoidably coming?[/quote]

I am curious - and I ask this without judgment, but just because your OP talked about frumpiness. If she was normal weight but still dressed “frumpily”, how would you feel? Is it mostly about the weight, or are there two different issues?[/quote]

Sorry. I was referring to being the OP of a different post. I am not the thread starting OP.

My wife (70lbs/18 years) is not frumpy . She wears all black all the time to hide her fat...boring (black is choc, just not all the time ) but not frumpy.[/quote]

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