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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]See men would totally be willing and want to pay for a girlfriend to go on vacation together.[/quote]

And they shouldn't be ok with that, TBH. When I was dating my now exH, I was younger and still contributed to our vacations pro-rata  our incomes. And I do think he married me in part due to seeing me as partner, not a bimbo. A lot of men in their 50s become incredibly cheap, and even if they make serious money (200k+), they are just staying back home, not traveling etc.  I think it's part of a mental decline for that age group, not necessarily a sign of financial instability. I've met men who were making $500k but incredibly cheap relative their income. Generosity is a character train, and it's always related to ability to give in a relationship in many other ways. That cheap guy was also pretty a bad lover, and a multi-dater.[/quote]

A man paying for a woman is the gentlemanly thing to do. Why is the girl a bimbo? Isn’t this whole thread about men who can’t afford to pay for himself let alone the woman???

DH earns a high income now but he also paid for me when he was a poor grad student. He has always given me his all.[/quote]

I was always uncomfortable when men tried to pay for me everything, even in my 20s. I would attempt to reciprocate in some way, or pay at least something. But I come from a family with 3 generations of working/breadwinners women.[/quote]

Of course I paid for some things. I often picked up groceries or take out. This was before Uber eats 20+ years ago. DH, then bf, took me on vacations but I also treated Dh on vacations. In fact, we got engaged on a birthday trip for DH. I guess I just don’t like going Dutch. It is just a personal preference. I thought it was weird if a couple went to Starbucks and ordered separate drinks. That had never happened to me but I would think the guy was so cheap not getting me a drink.

I always thought going Dutch on a date was a bad look. If a guy liked me, the least he could do is buy me dinner. Worked out fine for me. I think only one guy made me go Dutch. It was probably very obvious that I was not into him during the meal so he split the bill with me when the meal was over. [/quote]

I also hate going Dutch with meals on a date - this makes me not want a man, or if he wants to split, I would presume he doesn't like me as a woman. Not sure why, but it's not a big dating expense as I don't really want to dine out too often. I'm totally fine with buying groceries, paying for entertainment and splitting vacation and housing costs. But I would never pay more than 50% for any of these large expenses with a man. They have it easier in life vs woman, with no need to birth kids, provide childcare at expense of career, no job or salaried discrimination etc.[/quote]

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