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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here are my thoughts:
1. on sending kids to college and then they choose not to work - For people like me, college didn't provide actual work skills, but it did open a door so that jobs would be provided to me. Arguing that they "aren't using what you paid for" is baseless. You pay for college because it opens doors - for jobs and socio-economic opportunity. That includes pair-bonding opportunities. 
2. Most jobs are pointless air-sucks - people dissing on SAHM act like they are all saving the world with their stupid jobs. Most jobs, not all jobs, do not add that much value to the world. They may add value to YOUR life, but if your industry disappeared tomorrow, our species wouldn't be at risk.
3. A life spent outside or inside of work can be well spent, or it can be wasted. See how that works?![/quote]

I agree with all of this.

I'm a SAHM and DH is a big law partner, and one of the things I love most about him is that he fully acknowledges the fundamental pointlessness of his job. He knows that he isn't contributing much to society and genuinely believes that family and relationships are the most important parts of life and stretches himself to be an involved dad and partner. He thinks it's hilarious when people think what they do is is more important than SAHMs, unless they are pediatric oncologists or something. But he also acknowledges that he gets a lot of satisfaction out of his job because of the good relationships he has made at work and the feeling of competence he gets when he does a job well. He doesn't exactly want me to go back to work because life will be more stressful when I do, but he knows I need those emotional benefits a job provides.

Also, I find it so impressive when people are able to get the emotional benefits of a job without having a job. I know what I need to do to be happy: do things that make me feel competent and that are rewarding, maintain friendships, etc. but I do not have the internal motivation to do it. I definitely can challenge myself intellectually on my own but for everything else I need the external motivation and I can't wait to go back to work even though it'll have its own set of sucky challenges. [/quote]

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