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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I strongly dislike my mother, she always made terrible financial decisions, and now in her old age I still sent her $500 a month to bridge the gap between Social Security and what she really needs to live. My spouse doesn’t like her either, but has no problem with this - because it’s what you just do.[/quote]

Right, but I think it's all relative.  Are you doing it at a cost of being able to save for a downpayment?  Are you jeopardizing your own retirement?  Are you saving to help your kids with college?  The issue is finite resources and conflicting priorities within a marriage.  It's particularly nuanced when one set of parents needs help and the other does not.  [/quote]

And this is exactly why I asked OP to give us the specifics. How much money are we talking about and how much money do they make? She said they can afford it, but if they are really doing it at the cost of saving for a down payment and for the kids college then they can’t afford it. That’s why I want to see numbers before I make a decision whether or not, she’s just another nasty DCUM in law hater or whether she has a point. [/quote]

Not being able to save for a down payment or kids' college means they are not really able to afford it. [/quote]

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