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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You feel even more stressed because you’re doing this all day every day by being a stay at home mom, for dubious reasons at this point. You claim she is good for everyone else, then put her in a daycare. Maybe she will be happier around other kids her age as well. If she’s crying all day at home, I think it’s logical to let her go to daycare especially when you already established that she is well-behaved as long as she is not around you. It’s one thing if she gets kicked out of daycares and you had no choice but to stay home with her. But that is not the case here so I am perplexed as to why you keep on doing it. It also doesn’t sound like you’re financially struggling, so this whole thing is self inflicted.

Why continue to let her stay at home all day with you when she’s obviously not happy because she’s crying all day?

I have a kid who was a very very difficult infant. The type who cried all day and needed to be held all day and all night. I also quit my job to stay home with him. Even as he got older, he always needed my attention at all times. When he was around 18 months old I’ve had it, and decided I had to try daycare. I had avoided it for a long time because I was afraid he would get kicked out. Turns out he loved daycare. Never threw a tantrum there. I am told that he is among the most well-behaved child in his classes. He is much better now that he’s older.

I think you should give it a try. It’s unclear why you kept on staying at home with your child when you have admitted that she has a lot of behavior issues when she’s with you, and not with anyone else. That just doesn’t make any sense. [/quote]

We have applied for preschool for next fall. She is going a year early. I’m not sure if you’ve dealt with severe, severe sleep deprivation, but I was too stupid for a long time to figure this all out. I came to the same realization a few months ago but it was too late to line up school for this fall. I’m looking for strategies to cope until next August.[/quote]

Start looking for short term daycare openings. If those are absolutely not available at all where you live, then I suggest doing a lot of mommy and me classes, outings, etc. Be outside of the house around other people. You stated in a prior post that she’s fine when you’re doing your outings and socializes well with other people - and the opening post describes issues that happen only when you’re alone with her. If you must be in the house for whatever reason, hire a sitter to show up and help out since she doesn’t act like that in front of the sitter. To help you get a break and prevent behavior issues until dad gets home. When dad comes home from work he should take on the primary role in dealing with her because she doesn’t act like that in front of him. Even if it means he does less chores in the household. Spend money to outsource anything you can so you don’t have to do everything, and he can focus on taking care of her. On the weekends, sign her up for more classes. At home, dad will need to continue taking on the primary role of taking care of her. Always make sure that dad is present in the car or at home. If he needs a break and cannot be present, get a sitter. Time to spend money to save your sanity. [/quote]

Dad can’t even do bedtime or OP won’t push for it. She’s not going to do something like the above.  [/quote]

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