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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can only commiserate, OP. It sucks! And yes, no matter how otherwise good I feel about my life, this behavior always hurts.

BUT I can say that I am now mid-40s and it hurts [i]less[/I]. I'm in my 40s now and there is a woman at my kid's school who behaves this way towards me and I have no idea why. At first it really did hurt my feelings and I was feeling kind of glum. But I got over it faster. Recently I saw this woman at a school event and she walked up to me and another person, spoke to the other person for several minutes without acknowledging me, and walked away. I've known this woman for 3 years, our kids are in the same grade, and we have "met" each other at least 2 dozen times at birthday parties and school functions. She always behaves this way.

Anyway, when she did this, I was a bit hurt for a moment, and then I laughed. And I told my husband about it later and. he laughed too. Because it's *crazy*. Imagine working this hard to ignore someone. It's work! She must have some real issues on the inside that the only way she has to deal with this situation is to behave this way. It's childish and effortful.

Try to see the absurdity in it. Be glad you don't feel the need to behave this way.[/quote]

I’ve encountered women like this for sure. There’s one at our school, but I’ve never really tried to be friends with her so it doesn’t bother me.

But yes, you have to see how absurd it is. Once I become comfortable with that, I’d be absolutely smothering this woman with kindness. While she was talking to the one person and not me I would have said “bye Lisa!!” as soon as she walked away. Super cheery but a little over the top. I’d also almost always greet her and say hi by name anytime I saw her. Make it awkward FOR HER. You still don’t have to be friends but it’ll make the interactions more fun for you. [/quote]

PP here and I do this too! I am terrific with names and faces due to years of teaching yoga classes pre-kids (it's a skill, you can learn it). I greet everyone by name and give everyone a smile and am EXTRA pleasant to the ones who rude to me. It's like "see, this isn't even hard -- you're rude af to me and I still managed to remember your name and smile at you during drop-off because I have social skills." I honestly think it makes them feel dumb.[/quote]

For some of us it is legitimately inadvertent. I hate that I can’t remember names. [/quote]

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