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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t wait until all of your kids grow up and trash you.  Seriously, why are you all so petty and mean?  Who did what to you?  What trauma did you suffer?  What has made you so insecure and unsettled?[/quote]

My kids will likely have various complaints about me, but me showing up hours earlier than planned is not something I would ever do. So I am safe from that particular note. What an extraordinarily rude thing to do—indefensibly so. You might have a leg to stand on if they texted or called once they decided to get on the road early, but they did not. Indefensibly rude. [/quote]

+1.  They didn’t call or text because they knew you wouldn’t agree to their change of plans.  This way, they get to show up and say “SURPRISE!”  They don’t care if you’re busy or inconvenienced.  [b]They believe they call the shots.[/b][/quote]

This, OP.
This is parents regressing into parents of small children when they did call all the shots. Those days are long, long gone, but some parents feel entitled to relive this experience with their children. It's all about control. Yes, it's exceedingly rude, and no, they'd never do this to anyone except their own child.

It's not a "petty vent" OP. It's very dysfunctional behavior, and you are fully entitled to be upset by it. [/quote]

DP. Thank you for this. I finally understand my ILs. I mean I knew MIL was rude, and I’ve just now started standing up to her, but now I have a better understanding why she does what she does. I thought her generation was just selfish. What ILs don’t understand, is that acting this way leads to less time with us. [/quote]

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