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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]"I love him and my kids so much… but I don’t know how I’m going to keep living in this area with no end in sight."[/b]

Have you said this to him?  You said a lot of stuff in your OP. Have you said those things to him also?  I can understand him being upset, but I think any loving partner would not want their partner to be this miserable.  I'm not saying he should have to agree to move away; I'm saying that he should be sympathetic and open to working on a solution with you, something that can make you both happy as much as possible. Someone will probably end up getting the short end of the stick but feeling heard and knowing that the other person really cares can go a long way.

If he's just angry and not willing even to discuss options, I'd be pissed and probably end up resentful. I don't know how long I could live like that.

Good luck![/quote] OP - yes, I have told him this. I told him that I hope he never dislikes living in a place to the extent that I do. One of our issues is that our viewpoints on finding happiness where you live vary quite a bit - my entire family lives within a short drive of each other, and this has been the case since I was a kid. Most of my high school friends still live back home. He moved around a lot as a kid because his parents’ jobs required it. I think that the fact that he never experienced growing up with family nearby — whereas I did — is playing into this.

Again, thank you all who have constructively asked questions and lended support to me. I really am trying to find happiness here but after over a decade of friends coming and going every couple of years, it’s hard. All of the people that I have become close to have removed away from here unfortunately. We keep in touch but it’s not the same as meeting up for coffee or drinks in-person.

As an introvert it’s exhausting to keep putting yourself out there only to have people leave. [/quote]

OP, if a bunch of your friends and family from back home up and moved to your neighborhood in the DMV, would you still hate it here? Or if in theory DH was ok with moving, but not to somewhere near your home town, would that scratch the itch to leave?

Because I think other posters are on point that it’s not the place, but the lack of proximity to family that is bothering you. And I’m not sure if it’s fair to your DH and kids if there is only one place in the US that you claim you’d be happy living.

If there is something about this area in particular you don’t like that is very different than wanting your DH to adopt a very in-law/hometown high school friends-centric life.

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