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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My aunt never dated and never married. She was a knock out well into her 50’s. Really - everyone comments about her good looks if I post photos of her and her siblings from back in the day. Still looks great in her 80’s. She had a fab career, very successful.

I once asked my mom how come Auntie never married and she told me maybe because she was a bit prudish about sex. She is very religious. Maybe she was asexual, maybe a repressed lesbian (doesn’t give off a vibe for that tho), who knows. She used to say she didn’t ever meet the right man. I halfway remember her once claiming the Marlborough man was her type.

Anyway, she’s had an awesome life, with a job she loved, lifelong friends, traveled all over, and is all her nieces and nephew’s favorite aunt.

So it never really occurred to me to feel there was something lacking in her life. She certainly doesn’t feel that way.

If you go back through your family tree you’ll find plenty of relatives who never married. [/quote]

I tend to believe that a lot of women like this were choosing to be confirmed bachelorettes in time periods when it just wasn’t socially acceptable- heck it still isn’t, long term single women are almost always talked about as somehow deficient or broken.

But I truly believe that some women just don’t want the limitations and massive sacrifices required of becoming a wife and mother and they choose singledom by taking up the myth of the forlorn spinster who never met her man - or met him young and lost him somehow.

I did a bunch of research on this a few decades ago when I realized I probably wasn’t ever going to take up the yoke. It’s a limited area of research but there is some evidence suggesting that a good percentage of women have made this willful choice for themselves for centuries, when circumstances allowed for it. That typically meant having a father or brother willing to support them or in more recent times being capable of self support.[/quote]

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