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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster. I'm curious how many of these MILs who are asking their son's wives to stay at home while they ask their their son to come over or do things with them without their son's wife is making any sort of effort to include the DIL into the family in other areas? Or to foster an independent relationship with her as their DIL? Does she ever and the DIL to go out shopping, or to get their nails done, or to grab lunch together?

I think why a lot of people seem to take issues with mother and son spending alone time together without their wife is because most men are gonna want their wives included and plus there is a very very fine line between wanting time alone with your son and the mothers that request this not being able to accept that their son's are married and they are no longer the #1 woman in their son's life so they are trying to subconsciously shit out the wife/their DIL or they are unable to cut the apron strings from their adult sons.[/quote]

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OMG PEOPLE. I need to stop reading and replying because none of you are reading the thread but I said I’d be fine if he didn’t go and wanted to stay home with her! And also that I would invite her! You all. Seriously. You want so badly for me to be a monster.

Also this is all ridiculous stereotyping of moms and sons. Would you say the same and it was switched- daughter and boyfriend? If my son were a daughter, would you ask if I had taken her boyfriend out to get our nails done and that I was trying to take my daughter away from her boyfriend (of less than a year)?

Stop people! Let’s all be nice and realize we’re all just out there trying and some of us make mistakes sometimes. [/quote]

Mothers of daughters don't place themselves in competition of their daughter's bf or husband.

The fact you felt the need to add in parenthesis that she is a gf of less than a year is very telling of how your view their relationship.

Also I don't get why everyone is harping on the fact that this vacation was in the planning process before gf entered the picture because that doesn't matter the gf is in the picture now so adjustments should be made accordingly and she should be invited. Family circumstances change and new members are added. You would never say to someone who has a baby well that baby wasn't around when the tripped was in the planning stages.

I'm not understanding how the fact they were planning the vacation from before the gf was in the picture is even relevant unless things were already paid for and you couldn't add another person but that doesn't seem to be the case here? So what's the problem with adjusting accordingly? What skin is it off your back to add her? I'm not saying at all you need to pay for her but include her absolutely because I'm sure your son considers her as important as his family and his nuclear family and wouldn't be happy with you at all if you put him in a position to choose between you and her because guess what you will probably lose that battle [/quote]

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