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[quote=Anonymous]Haven't read all 15 pages of this, but can relate to OP's frustration. DH grew up in a house with 5 kids, and I grew up with 1 much younger sibling. He gobbles the "good" snacks and foods like there's no tomorrow, and it baffles me and DC (an only). Both of us will leave a box of cookies in the cupboard for weeks and eat them slowly. His default is to eat as much as possible before it's gone. Which means HE'S the one eating it all and we go for a cookie in a week and are surprised they're gone, or worse, are left with one sad token cookie left. Mind you, he came from a high SES family and there was plenty of food to go around, but it was the 80s and his mom wasn't involved in policing equal shares and micromanaging the snack cupboard. I think it's just different when you have to claim yours or you know it will be gone later. It's taken two decades with me for him to unlearn the scarcity mindset and to think of food as a shared commodity and consider our needs (wants?). It really took DC getting old enough to be like "dad, did you eat ALL of the chips AGAIN? I didn't get ANY!" I also had to point out that he was teaching DC to horde food and binge, and he really took that to heart and made an intention effort to change his behavior.

All of OP's specifics are family dependent, but in our house we absolutely set aside a plate if someone misses dinner or is late to a holiday meal, and of course the birthday person gets the first slice or choice of slice. We usually check with each other before eating the last of leftovers, but if someone finishes something at midnight or whatever, NBD because it's not a constant thing. And leftover fast food is gross, team OP's DH on that one. [/quote]

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