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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I guess seeing someone retire early from a very lucrative position at such an early age makes me wonder if "retired" = "fired" because of a some mental or addiction problem, followed by suicide or OD soon thereafter.[/quote]

OP, I am trying to be kind, but you need a hobby, a job or both.  You have a way too overactive imagination and your imagination conjures a lot of fiction when you don't know something that really isn't your business to know.

I've known several people who retired early from lucrative positions because they didn't really like to work and didn't like what they did.  So, many of them set a mental target and when they got to a certain amount of money, they retired to live the life they wanted to live and not work themselves to death.  Same with a bunch of people who started businesses that they loved.  They waited until the business reached a certain value and they groomed someone to take over the business and they sold the company and left while they were still young enough to enjoy the wealth that they had built.  Very common.

And died unexpectedly used to mean suicide or OD, but that was like last century.  If you are still assuming that, your probably old.[/quote]

I'm 40, which means I remember "last century" pretty well. As do a lot of us. Died unexpectedly without any cause of death in a younger person was a typically used to politely avoid mentioning suicide or overdoes. Things might be slightly different now, first of all, there's far fewer obituaries, but even in the obituaries I come across it's still usually made clear in other ways that an unexpected younger death was not due to overdoses or a suicide. "Died unexpectedly while playing basketball," for example.

Your last line makes me think you're quite young? Maybe that's why you don't fully grasp wanting to know cause of death is hardly morbid or offensive. And why we had certain phrases about certain types of death to be polite and respectful even if everyone really knew what happened. Like the old fashioned "hunting accident."

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NP. I’m 43. Things change, times change. What hasn’t changed is that the only right and kind thing to do is follow the family’s lead when it comes to death, and what information they choose to share. Gossip, speculation, and trading rumors is, has been, and always will be wrong when it comes to death and grieving families.

Have you not seen in this very thread that multiple causes of death, from choking to a tree branch hitting someone one the head to heart attacks, have been listed as “suddenly” or “unexpectedly” in obituaries? Cause of death is not always immediately known. Do you get that? Have you not yet grasped that families choose to share or not share as they see fit, and good people respect those wishes and boundaries?[/quote]

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