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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here’s the vibe I’m getting from this thread -

Moms of boys are feeling threatened because girls are being encouraged and elevated in ways that boys are not. I get that. My nephew was recently rejected from his dream school while a female classmate with lower scores/grades was admitted. On an individual level, that probably feels terrible.

But as a result, these “boy moms” on this thread are completely sticking their heads in the sand on the past and present. There is a need to encourage and elevate girls, as a whole.

Also, they’re just t-shirts. If your sons are so threatened by a t-shirt, how on earth are they going to survive this world?  Do you have similar problems with MAGA hats?  Black Girl Magic hashtags?  WTF people.

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Yeah, that's what you got if you want to look at it in the worst light possible.

If you actually listened - what moms are noting is that we want to raise our children with good values, but have a hard time knowing what to say when they point out something that appears true:  that it is socially acceptable to have a "girls rule" shirt, but not a "boys rule" shirt.  The important question is how to have this discussion with very young kids without pushing them away or making them feel like their feelings are unacceptable or must not be voiced.  THAT dynamic is exactly what eventually pushes boys into the "red pill" dynamic: once they are in a forum where they are "allowed" to express these taboo feelings, they can now be expressed and exaggerated. Much better to validate boys feelings and acknowledge that it feels unfair. Separately, there actually is good reason to be concerned about how boys are doing. Many parents of boys (NOT just moms) have observed how in elementary school, girls seem to be doing much better than boys. This is supported by research.

It's a very *progressive adult* orthodoxy to be able to say piously "Oh, I understand that BLM does not mean white lives do not matter!  Of course "girls rule" is just a way to correct for historical discrimination!"  It's a fantasy to believe that children will be able to say or understand the same way.  [/quote]

Thank you. Very well said.[/quote]

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