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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.[/quote]

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.[/quote]
Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head. [/quote]

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.[/quote]

Women. We really are our own worst enemy.[/quote]

Yeah… b cup here…. You sound incredibly bitter. Maybe you should work on body acceptance. [/quote]

I mean, I agree, but I also think it’s telling that this anger/bitterness is coming from someone who was obviously shamed for being flat chested when she was younger.

Like she’s being rude, but I imagine it’s coming from a place of hurt from being told for years that there was something wrong with HER body. So there might be a lesson in there for everyone.[/quote]

Agreed, and I'll join you in starting that it's wrong and cruel to tell people with flatter chests that they can't be womanly. My God, women turn heads with a very slim and/or small-breasted body shape all the time. All the time!

Also, it's a pretty gross look to try to get yours by making other women feel bad about themselves, too. It's also patiently untrue -- and you know it. She knows it. All you end up doing with that tack is to reinforce to yourself that you have to base your own feeling good on a lie. This isn't good for her, either.[/quote]

PP. Right, but the specific lesson I was talking about is that as women, we set ourselves up for this kind of tit for tat (pun intended).

I’ve seen/heard girls and women tear each other down for their appearance all the time. Shaming each other for weight, breast size, how their butts look, acne, wrinkles, being tan or not, hair, body hair, all of it. And it’s women doing it to each other. It is no surprise to me that this results in more criticism, as women who feel shamed for their bodies turn around and push it onto others.

This thread is about 40+ women, but a lot of us are still carrying around hurt from body shame that started when we were girls. And that’s why this conversation sucks. When women have been made to feel ugly and flawed for 40 years, they are going to be hypercritical and nasty. So maybe the solution here is to stop criticizing the bodies of girls and young women, stop telling them every way their bodies are wrong and how to fix them, and then they might hit 40 and not be like this.[/quote][/quote]

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