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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So these husbands are indentured servants? Make X minimum salary forever or else? Or else what?[/quote]

I mean that is called being a man.  You decide how to structure your life.  If the idea was that biglaw could go away any second you would keep spouse working and save like crazy.  If you go the route that OP's family did here -- it is on the spouse in biglaw --- one thing if he was fired or could not bring in enough work but otherwise you do not get to leave.  You made the choice --- if you watch what you do -- no reason you cannot make the move at age 50ish.  But have that as your plan.  You gave up on the other job when you went this route.[/quote]

No. It’s called people can change their minds and they adjust accordingly. It’s not some sort of permanent servitude so you never have to work. I feel sorry for your husband.[/quote]

DP.

Oh please. Grow up.

As is the case in every other aspect of life, there are consequences and processes involved in changing your mind. That's life. He needs to suck it up for a little longer.

OP was working at home, catering to this man's every need.[/quote]

If OP was a man with a biglaw wife, your response would be completely different. I’ve never heard the phrase “grow up” from someone mature. [/quote]

What's your solution, Mature One?

Her DH makes 183k and she goes back to school while they pay for preschool?

Or they sell their house and move somewhere cheaper?

They are not making it in Bethesda on 183k . [/quote]

This. He can take a pay cut but it’s going to require a complete restructuring of their life with the assumption he will never go back, because that’s what’s most likely. And that will likely mean giving up other things he wants, like working a prestigious post at Main Justice. Choices have consequences.

If I were his wife I’d be freaking out because he seems to be indulging in a complete fantasy about how this will play out. The plan to spend down their savings to avoid the reality of how this move doesn’t fit with their current burn rate is alarming. [/quote]

This is the risk a woman takes when she puts all of her financial eggs in her husband's basket. I'm sure her husband understands exactly what needs to happen for this to work financially, but he's just knows his wife is going to freak out about the end of the gravy train. [/quote]

Isn’t it more the risk a man takes when he marries a man with no meaningful career prospects? [/quote]

Nah. The husband is fine going down to the Fed salary. Its the wife that has a problem with it. She can't "make" him stay in BigLaw. [/quote]

I don’t see how he’s fine with it given that he’s clearly delusional about what he actually needs to do to make it work. [/quote]

Where does OP say this? I think he’s minimizing it to keep HER off the ledge. He’s done Fed work before - he knows. [/quote]

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