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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men are hard wired to want women in their early 20's. It's just biology. I date younger women because I want them and I can get them, don't care if that pisses off the feminists.[/quote]

Do you have daughters?

I find it hard to believe men who have daughters and thus realize how very young women in their EARLY 20s really are would feel okay with this.

And I am a man. My colleague, who was in his late 40’s, started up an affair with a 20 year old. I could never look at him the same way; it’s completely predatory. But he doesn’t have daughters, and I think that might be why he could wrap his mind around it [/quote]

This. They are mostly not really adults on the inside no matter what the outside look like. They may be intellectually precocious but emotionally are usually very young still.[/quote]

Perhaps they should not be allowed to vote then.[/quote]

Or drink, or have jobs, or go out in public without a responsible adult as their protector / duenna. [/quote]

Actually he is literally talking about people who aren’t old enough to drink or graduate from college. You want your collegesged daughter sleeping with a 45 year old promiscuous slime who gives her an STD?[/quote]

He is literally talking about "very young women in their EARLY 20s". They may be old enough to drink - but it hardly matters because we all know they ARE drinking anyway.

[b]When my daughter goes to college, I will have ZERO control over who she sleeps with. She will do whatever she wants. There is no point in me even thinking about it.[/b][/quote]

No one is talking about you needing to control your daughter. People are wondering how middle-aged men feel morally okay “dating” young women in their early 20s, because anyone who has ANY context at all realizes that how emotionally young they are at that stage. [/quote]

I am morally ok with any adult consensually dating any other adult. If you are not morally ok with that, then you have to argue that adult women need to be controlled in some way, to prevent them from dating objectionable men, which you consider immoral, otherwise your moral position is futile and senseless.

You can't stop women from having sex with whoever they want, so you might as well not be mad about it.[/quote]
DP.. wouldn't you find it weird if your DD was serious about a man who might be older than you, her father. That's just so weird, and gross, tbh.  You would have to wonder what happened in her childhood that would make her go after someone *that* old.[/quote]

DP.

I'd rather that than her being serious about a man child or an abuser, which is what a good chunk of women on this board are married to.

Do these couples gross you out as much as women with older men? If it does not, why not?
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It's not as gross because I could not imagine having sex with a man who is 20 years older than I am.  The thought of it is gross.  When I was in my 20s, some 30 something yr old men were attractive, but now that I'm past my 40s, I would find having sex with a 60+ yr old man really gross.

A man/child is terrible, and obviously, I wouldn't want to have children with such men, but I wouldn't want to have children with an old man, either.  Neither will be there for our kids long term.

Also, a man/child isn't an abuser.  But, being married to an old man will eventually lead to being married to a man/child because when people hit their 80s, they need a lot of help, so you will end up  being their caretaker when you are still young.

So, neither is appearling, tbh, and I'd rather have stayed single than be in either type of LTR.  Luckily, my  DH is not a man/child, but he is six years older.[/quote]

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