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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men are hard wired to want women in their early 20's. It's just biology. I date younger women because I want them and I can get them, don't care if that pisses off the feminists.[/quote]

Do you have daughters?

I find it hard to believe men who have daughters and thus realize how very young women in their EARLY 20s really are would feel okay with this.

And I am a man. My colleague, who was in his late 40’s, started up an affair with a 20 year old. I could never look at him the same way; it’s completely predatory. But he doesn’t have daughters, and I think that might be why he could wrap his mind around it [/quote]

This. They are mostly not really adults on the inside no matter what the outside look like. They may be intellectually precocious but emotionally are usually very young still.[/quote]

Perhaps they should not be allowed to vote then.[/quote]

Or drink, or have jobs, or go out in public without a responsible adult as their protector / duenna. [/quote]

Actually he is literally talking about people who aren’t old enough to drink or graduate from college. You want your collegesged daughter sleeping with a 45 year old promiscuous slime who gives her an STD?[/quote]

He is literally talking about "very young women in their EARLY 20s". They may be old enough to drink - but it hardly matters because we all know they ARE drinking anyway.

[b]When my daughter goes to college, I will have ZERO control over who she sleeps with. She will do whatever she wants. There is no point in me even thinking about it.[/b][/quote]

No one is talking about you needing to control your daughter. People are wondering how middle-aged men feel morally okay “dating” young women in their early 20s, because anyone who has ANY context at all realizes that how emotionally young they are at that stage. [/quote]

I am morally ok with any adult consensually dating any other adult. If you are not morally ok with that, then you have to argue that adult women need to be controlled in some way, to prevent them from dating objectionable men, which you consider immoral, otherwise your moral position is futile and senseless.

You can't stop women from having sex with whoever they want, so you might as well not be mad about it.[/quote]

DP.. wouldn't you find it weird if your DD was serious about a man who might be older than you, her father. That's just so weird, and gross, tbh.  You would have to wonder what happened in her childhood that would make her go after someone *that* old.[/quote]

My DD isn't old enough to date yet. When she is, I hope she makes good choices. But the point is - and I don't understand why this is so hard for everyone to get - is what I think about it won't matter a bit. She will do whatever she wants.

When I was in grad school in my mid 20s, I knew women in their 20s who dated guys in their 40s. I knew those women well enough to know there wasn't anything that "happened" in their childhoods to make them date much older guys. They just liked those guys at that time. They also dated guys their own age.

It's not even like "dating a much older guy" is the only or the worst mistake a woman in her 20s can make. Why are you so hung up on this?[/quote]
of course she will date whomever she wants. That wasn't the question.

The question is, as a dad, would you not feel weird if your DD was in a serious relationship with a man who might be older than you or your age? Would you not worry about what would happen to her when he is in his 70s/80s while she is still pretty young?  If you say  you don't care what she does, then I guess I can understand why stuff like this wouldn't bother you.  But, I would definitely think the younger woman has some issue if she is in a serious relationship with such an old man.[/quote]

I'm not a father but I would not be concerned if my DD was in a serious relationship with a man my age.  I would assume that this relationship will come to a natural end as they tend to do, and will view it as part of her life experience education.  I wouldn't be worried about what would happen to her when he is in his 70s or 80s because at that point they would have gone their separate ways and she'd probably be married to a more age suitable partner.  Perhaps I find my own history reassuring as I've dated multiple older men in my 20s but have married an age-suitable partner in my mid-thirties. [/quote]
1. you are not a father so you really don't know how that would feel, but even as a mother, I can tell you would not want your DD to get married to a much older man based on your post.
2. if you think the relationship will come to a natural end, then it's not good for either parties, because the woman will have wasted her youth on an old man who won't be around when she's in her 50s, and she will find it much harder to find another partner   2. the old man won't have a partner to grow old with if she dumps him as soon as he hits a certain age, at a time when he needs the partner the most.

I'm not talking about a fling, but a serious long term relationship.[/quote]

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