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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Omg this is always such a polarizing topic and people are so rude about it.

OP, so what makes YOU happy. Agree that you will have to accept and let go that in laws may be upset.

We didn’t have in laws there until two months and they were annoying about it but life goes on. Let go of caring what anyone but your immediate family thinks and feels when you’re making decisions about your postpartum happiness/sanity. Good luck![/quote]
Totally agree. You are in charge of yourself and your child. Do not allow control freaks to interfere.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

Every family is different. A lot of people are pretty obviously projecting their own relationships and/or experiences on OP. Hey, I can admit I’m probably more sympathetic to OP’s stance just given that my in-laws are not helpful. When they visited us the first time, quite early on, my FIL pouted when my husband asked him to help with one or two things around the house and my MIL walked around straightening my pictures on the wall and telling me everything she did as a first time mom. (None of which were things I was doing.) Such is family! But you bet your butt we had them wait awhile the second time. Just wasn’t worth the disruption to what should be a time to recover and bond. Also, my marriage definitely was better off without adding in-law stress to the postpartum period!

And to everyone assuming OP will “demand” help later on…no idea where that assumption comes from. That’s definitely just looking for a reason to be nasty. Also, relationships shouldn’t be a quid pro quo thing anyways, hopefully.

Good luck! Wishing you a peaceful time at home bonding with your new little one. [/quote]

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