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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Increasingly my frustration around the redshirting conversation is not whether people do it or not (do it if you want to, it's a personal decision).

BUT people need to accept that there will be a range of ages (by month of course) and maturity levels in a class, and be ready to deal with it. If you want to redshirt your August birthday, fine. But I sent my August birthday on time both because we could not easily afford another year of childcare and because her PK teacher was like "she is extremely ready for K." And she was, as she started reading on her own the summer before K started.

But she's among the youngest in class, and yes, there are maturity differences between her and the oldest kids, including some redshirted kids. And that's just the reality. If you want to get mad or roll your eyes because my kid sometimes cries at school, needs a bit more help with social issues or other developmental issues (while your older child has to work independently or sit quietly), tough. I sent my child on time according to the deadline issued by the district. You are the one who chose to bend a rule. Which is fine, you do you. But that doesn't mean that suddenly kindergarten is going to cater to your child's maturity level. My kid turned 5 about 10 days before K started, and that is what it is. She's in the top reading and math groups at schools. Don't complain about the "immaturity" of my appropriately aged kindergartener. She's normal.[/quote]

Who's complaining about the immaturity? If anyone, it's the teachers. The vast majority of parents don't know what's going on in the classroom or who cries or still wets their pants. But for those who made a different decision it's because we didn't want the teachers constantly complaining to us about our "immature" kindergartener not keeping up with the much older classmates or being the one causing all the issues. You've seen the studies that the youngest are the most likely to be diagnosed with ADHD, I presume. That's not on the other parents though.

The other people complaining are those with the young kids who don't like that they have the youngest.

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PP here. I have no problem having the youngest. What is tiresome is when parents who redshirted their kids complain that the academics aren't advanced enough or "why are these kindergarteners spending so much time xyz social skills -- they have it." No, your redshirted child does because they are a full year older. The other kids need, you know, kindergarten.

I think a lot of people who are very adamant about redshirting really just want to change the cutoffs so kids are older when they start school. Which is fine, then advocate for that. But the cutoffs are what they are, plenty of people will continue to send their kids on time. My kid is the youngest in class and has no trouble with the academics. But she seems immature to certain other parents because they held their kids back, and they are comparing their who is a full year older to my kid. Of course my kid is less mature. Suck it up, you did this to yourself.[/quote]

Your kid is exactly as mature as they should be for their age.

I don't get that either.  And, if your child has a learning disability it's better to catch it earlier and fix it.  My kid was reading long before age 5, so holding back a year made no sense as starting as a 6 year old reading when the 5 year olds couldn't seemed like we were wasting a year of their life. [/quote]

Sometimes the fix is more time. All the experts agree.[/quote]

No expert I’d going to say wait and see at age four.  They are going to say get them help.  And preschool teachers are not experts.  [/quote]

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