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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, remember that each house has a large number of sisters.  A girl may have 10 girls she knows and likes in the sorority.  If she goes to a rush party and just talks to them, she likely won’t get in.  Not because they “turn” on her because the other girls in the sorority who she doesn’t know still don’t know her after the party.  It’s critical that a girl meet as many sisters as possible at each party.  [/quote]

In 20 minutes. [/quote]

The whole process is strange.  Pick "your best friends" for the next 4 years from 3-4 meetings, of 3-5 mins with 4 or 5 girls each time, all while you are working your hardest to "present yourself"---or rather let others pick your best friends for the next 4 years.

T[b]hat's not how normal people pick friends[/b].  You hang out with people, get to know them by spending hours with them, not minutes.  Hang out watching movies, go to dinner, shopping, playing games, going to parties, playing sports, studying, etc.. And you decide if they are for you once you really get to know them, not the other way around.

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My daughter is a member of a sorority.  I assure you she is very normal and this was not how she picked her best friends ; nor did she let others pick them for her.  She is also on a varsity sports team and a member of a club that focuses on what she hopes to pursue as her career.  Her two closest friends are not in her sorority. They are not even on her team or in the professional club.  Imagine that!  But please, go ahead and stereotype if that makes you feel better.

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And you go ahead and try to convince yourself that what your daughter has is the norm.

I had an upfront seat, just on the outside for sorority rush my freshman year, during new student week, before classes even started.  I had the luck of living in THE party dorm on campus in the center of the fraternity quad, everyone on my floor sans me and one other girl (we were both poorer and she was black at a school with less than 5 % blacks, at a time when there were not many POC in the traditional Panhellic sororities).  So I watched as the girls on my floor had begun making friends the first 4-5 days.  Then rush started and every single friendship went by the wayside because they all ended being picked by different sororities.  As pledging happened and classes started, they didn't have time for much else besides sorority events.  Even afterwards, they had to be at mandatory dinners multiple nights per week and several other activities each week, even after rush.  So I watched 30+ girls stop hanging out with girls they were becoming friends with simply because the sorority activities didn't allow time for them to do much else.  Many of the girls couldn't go to parties with their "friends" from the dorm because "those sororities don't mix".  So after a few months, they were just acquaintances, not real friends.   
to me that is a sad state.  It happens to many due to the peer pressure of being 18-20 and the desire to fit in with your sorority or groups. [/quote]

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