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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP why the hell can’t your sons just eat more whole healthy foods? I find it really messed up that you won’t even consider getting rid of the calorie dense junk. They can just eat more potatoes at dinner. They don’t need the crap either. [/quote]

Clearly you don't have teen boys.  Come back and comment again when you do. [/quote]

For real.  Athletic teen boys easily eat 5000 calories per day.

That's not easy to do on hard boiled eggs and cucumbers (or whatever healthy snack you are imagining). [/quote]

If only there were things like protein and healthy carbs for weight gain, and you didn’t need to do it by shoveling in garbage. Oh wait! Good news! There are![/quote]

Look, this is hair spilling.  OP’s daughter isn’t overweight because of the food OP’s buys.  OP’s daughter is overweight because she overeats.  She likely is a compulsive overeater and/or uses food as comfort.  OP’s daughter would overeat no matter what is in the house, plus buy actually junk food outside of the house. Blaming OP for this because she keeps bags of pretzels and granola bars or whatever is foolish.

This is a health issue and I do think you need to gently address it with her OP.  This doesn’t need to be shaming.  I’m sure she doesn’t want to be gaining all this weight either.  She probably doesn’t realize how to stop it.  Start with a dr appt to check hormones, thyroid, etc.  Then a dietitian that specializes in teens.  Possibly a therapist is she seems incapable of implementing the dietitian’s plan.  While you can’t control her body or weight, burying your head in the sand and pretending you don’t notice; for fear you will hurt feelings or give her an eating disorder is wrong too.  She needs you to help her gain the knowledge and tools to get this curbed.  [/quote]

Truthfully I don’t think OP has given us enough info to support your first paragraph.[/quote]

Unless OP doesn’t buy any heathy foods and only stocks the house with coco puffs, Cheetos, ice cream, pop tarts, and chicken nuggets, you cannot blame this on food in the house. OP made it clear her house is full of heathy options and she cooks nutritious meals. OP’s daughter is 16, not 6.  It isn’t realistic to expect OP to not keep a single refined carb or added sugar item in the house- in any form.  No one lives like that.  Her daughter would still overeat and buy junk other places, probably more so.  “Other” foods will ALWAYS be accessible now and when she goes to college, if that is what she is seeking.  OP’s daughter needs to able to make the decision herself to put heathy foods in her body, learn what her body actually needs, and to move more.  Mom can’t do this by banning cookies entering the house won’t move the needle if DD doesn’t want to change [/quote]

I disagree. I have 3 out of 4 people in my house who cannot control their eating IF too many temptations are here. We have treats on special occasions, but you misunderstand how some people just are. Some overeaters are more like alcoholics with food than others. I didn't believe it until I married into it.[/quote]

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