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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Safety: UMd

No interest in paying big $$ for a school that is not notably better than UMd (will be a Stem major). Therefore he took a swing at a few heavyweights and if it doesn't work out, UMd it is. 1530/4.3w, private.

I can't even imagine paying somewhere like BU (or many others) a truckload of money for an education that is not *notably and substantially* better or more prestigious than UMd and *is* notably less prestigious than HYP/Rice/Penn.  And this is no knock on BU, its a very fine school probably better in some fields then UMd but is it 150-200K+ better?[/quote]

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We feel the same way.  Know someone who is paying a boatload of money to attend Northeastern (??) when they could have gone to their very good state school instead and gotten an excellent education for far less money.[/quote]

I don't know why this is so hard to understand.  Some kids really want to go to get out of the DMV to go to school.  Mine included.  If you have the ability to pay and your kid wants to go to school in Boston and Northeastern is the right fit and their top choice, then you send them to Northeastern. Or BU.  Or wherever it is that they really want to be.  Jeez.[/quote]

DP here. I would want my child to attend college with students from all over the country and world. We are in VA. UVA is like 70% in state? My selfishness wants my child to stay close for college.[/quote]
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It’s less than 70% in state. What you fail to recognize is that VA is one of the most diverse states in the country (especially NoVA) due to the influx of international families and those from all over the country who come to work in DC. The non VA students are very geographically diverse as well.  [/quote]

But it's still largely students from VA.  Everyone from my HS (Top HS in Henrico county) who went to UVA has stayed in VA.  Most of my HS stayed in state, however I left and attended a T10.  I haven't been back to VA except to visit family.  I've lived all over the US. My spouse is from another country.  Doubt any of that would have happened had I stayed at an instate school.

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Sounds like going OOS for college was the right choice for you, but is your life "better" than those who choose to stay close to home?  I just got back from visiting some of my wife's extended family in Sioux Falls, SD.  Her relatives there (all educated in colleges in SD or adjoining states) are prosperous, content, happy and have strong connections within their communities.  I've lived in 8 different countries and travelled extensively - I wouldn't trade that experience for anything.  But am I happier or do I have a better quality of life for having done that?  I don't think so. [/quote]

Obviously my life isn't any better than theirs for choosing to leave "home".  I never stated or implied that.

However, I am very happy my parents never restricted me and attempted to keep me instate just to keep me nearby. 
Which they could have easily done---I could have attended Va Tech or UVA for free at that time and we didn't have much $$.  But I attended a T10 which was T3 for one of my majors and T15 for the other and I came out with less than $10K in loans for 5 years.  I worked my ass off to make it affordable---I only came home for winter break because I couldn't afford thanksgiving and spring break travel.  So from a financial standpoint, my factory working, non-college educated parents could have easily encouraged me to stay close by.  But they didn't---they allowed me to be me and pick what path I wanted to follow.  
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DP.  You have posted the same thing over and over.  We get it - you're glad you went OOS for college.  Please consider a few things.  Your experience is not everyone's.  Some kids *want* to go to their in-state schools.  Many, in fact.  And those who do stay in-state are not somehow trapped in that state for the rest of their lives, as you seem to believe!  They can go elsewhere for grad school, or for jobs.  For instance, I went to a VA state school and have lived all over the world as an adult.  My horizons are quite broad, thanks.  My own kids are attending in-state schools and will be studying abroad and probably living elsewhere once they graduate.  Or not.  That's up to them.  The point being, where one attends college in no way limits where they'll go afterwards.  [/quote]

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