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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Instead of relying on anecdotes oh look another recent study about elite one percenters. I am too lazy to summarize but women’s incomes inconsequential in 85 percent of top one percent elite households. Also high performing women only married high performing men but high performing men married more economically diverse women. Sorry to burst your bubble… again.

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0003122418820702

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That doesn’t at all contradict the premise of this thread. [/quote]

It does. High earning income potential is not significant unless you aren’t a high earning man. Then you actually need the income to make up your lifestyle. [/quote]

This doesn’t narrow down the relevant age range, so it’s not relevant to the question of dating/spouse selection. Many women of rich men downshift, not because they can’t make more money, but because they don’t have to. But at the time of spouse selection, men don’t know if they’re being to be career successes or not, and younger men understand spouse selection is a bet hedge. [/quote]

Keep arguing to validate yourself and check back in ten years. It’s laughable that you are arguing when you self admittedly downgraded to a hobby job since your DH earns seven figures. It’s definitely not your income that keeps him there, and with each year that potential income diminishes while you are out of that high flying job no matter what degree you got. [/quote]

You still don’t get it. It’s not about why we are still married. It’s about why he married me, out of all of the options he had, at the time he was dating. And he will tell you bluntly my income potential was a factor. My income was also was, of course, a major factor in our current net worth. If he hadn’t won big in the corporate game, I would have been able to keep our kids in private school on my own. It happens that that’s not how our lives worked out, but I never would have quit if we needed my income. [/quote]

Good luck with your attitude. Because of your ivy league degree you can guide your child through college applications - do you even hear how arrogant you sound and entertain clients. I've been to many a function and spouses aren't usually invited except during holiday dinners. Just from this thread alone the pompousness  shows through. I don't see you keeping your foot in the corporate game and earning more money so you can outsource the childcare to nannies, as the original proposal said. You are a sell out just like the rest of us. I am from the exact same demographic you keep boasting about and I would never think this way about the other moms or women or even judge. You sure must be popular at your private school PTA.

You are the exact archetype and hypocrite - your education gave you a check mark but your income didn't matter in the end we are talking about.[/quote]

Did you reply to the wrong post? I didn’t say anything you are talking about here. [/quote]

You have a lower paying job but keep insisting men care about high income when others tell you the income doesn’t matter in general. Education has become more important as it has replaced family status as a status symbol and also because you get access to the high income men in college and in the workplace.  To keep riffing on what higher income men want when you are a stereotype of a highly educated underemployed/SAHM, which has existed for decades, is hypocritical. [/quote]

My husband didn’t marry a SAHM. He earned one by becoming fantastically successful. He married someone who could pay the mortgage in the event he face-planted. And that’s the point. Young men these days understand they need to plan on needing a dual income household, and not needing it is the best case scenario. My brother, who is Gen Z, is the classic example of this. He just stared working in tech sales and his SO is an accountant. He’d love for her to stay home with the kids someday but neither of them are assuming that will work out.

It’s convenient for you to point to the actual outcomes, i.e. the fact that one percenters often look like my family. But that has nothing to do with the dating process, or even the early years of marriage. I almost paid off our house before I quit. My brother’s SO paid some of his tuition. But if they someday look like my family, it won’t be because he didn’t care what money she could bring in. He cares a ton. [/quote]

The actual outcome of these one percenter marriages is what matters- it shows at the end of the day once there is a high income what the spouse brings in doesn’t matter. Now show me some statistics where an already high earning man is more likely to marry a high earning woman with an inflexible job and has to have an Ivy degree or someone who has a degree and gets along with his lifestyle is sufficient. I don’t understand the extremes - it’s not Ivy League or barrister, there are many in between that are good enough.

Anyway, it is laughable that you, a prime example of how high income men don’t care about earning power, keeps pontificating on why they do based on your early experience, which is subjective. And btw it is unlikely if your brother and gf strikes it rich it’s because of her accounting work. They need her to keep working if he never becomes rich, but if he does, oh wait she stays at home. That’s exactly the point, men who don’t earn enough need the woman to earn to maintain their lifestyle. [/quote]

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