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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these dudes who say ‘not fat’ havevsex packs and are over 6’1”, right?[/quote]

Women: What do men want?

Men: We want these things.

Women: F-you!! And you're fat! [/quote]

Yep, every time.  The women of DCUM love to tell us what we should want, and correct us when we answer the question of what we do want.  Really, why ask?[/quote]

You have an issue with people who age at the same rate as you. Have some introspection as to why this is an issue for you.[/quote]

Exactly - why don’t all these 60+ men date 60+ women who would be on same page with retirement, kids, time availability etc? Nope, they all try to find a good looking, financially secure 40 yo. Believe me - 40 yo women that you want have no problem finding men their age or slightly younger to date. All my girlfriends remarried to men who are within 5 years of their own age. Younger second husbands outweigh older ones in my circle (more couples when she’s 48 he’s 43 etc at the time of making  the second marriage official). [/quote]

The men are too nusy paying off their first and second wives - women don't think this through, just want a man with a house. Sad, but true. [/quote]

It’s not financially wise: a man with good salary (200+) and no first house  in his 40s is > than 60+ man with a house. You can build a life with option 1, and will have leftovers from prior marriages with option 2.  I have a fully paid off house from my own generous divorce settlement. Of course all option 2 men look for well-off much younger divorcees.  But income and future earning capacity is worth way more than a house. I can build multiple properties with someone my age and income level instead of retiring with 60+ husband, devoting all my time to his interests of a retiree, and who would leave everything to his kids regardless. WTF! [/quote]

There is too much bad information in your post to unpack it all. Anyone who thinks a man can "leave it all to his kids" doesn't understand the financial or legal system of the US. Anyone who thinks either future earning or future property equity are guaranteed is a fool. The reason women want a man with a house is because housing costs are typically the largest share of an adult's living costs. Women want the house so they can live rent-free and spend more on themselves (or their children). 
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Why would any adult woman want to live her life in a house she doesn’t own and has no equity in?[/b] Unless the alternative is exorbitant rent she’d be an idiot to settle for this, she gets nothing if they split.[/quote]

Because it is free?[/quote]Because you have to live somewhere and, no matter where you live, it cost money.  Do you expect a man to just add your name to the deed on a house he's paid into for maybe a few decades?  I can see willing to her but I'm not just handing over 1/2 my equity to her the day she moves in.  I wouldn't advise a woman to do that either.  Of course no woman of DCUM would dare think of such a thing anyway.[/quote]

I wouldn’t live in neither your nor my house. If I was to move into with a male partner, I would expect him to put downpayment at  50/50 with me  a nice SFH near DC, and to begin a new page in my life in a new family house. It would have to be at a minimum 25% of the house value we would put down jointly to avoid home owner insurance. The houses I like are usually $2mm plus so he can go figure my taste and see if he can match my cash reserves. [/quote]

Pardon, I meant PMI insurance - lenders would let you remove it with 25% down. And the previous homes would have to be rented out with funds going to separate premarital accounts. 
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