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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did none of these older women have jobs? I was born in 1986 and NONE of the women in my family had jobs but I thought we were an anomaly. How exhausting to be trying to work and also be expected to coordinate a gourmet meal (and there better not be any subpar stuffing.)[/quote]

OP here. I was born in 1979 and plenty of my mom’s peers had jobs, including my mom, but it’s like they still have this ingrained homemaking servitude chip embedded in them. My dad does no holiday prep or planning, no meal prep or planning, doesn’t even buy cards and gifts for his own sister. I can recall holidays where my brother was allowed to stay at the table while my sister and I were expected to clear the table. I don’t get it, I really don’t.[/quote]

As a homemaker, I truly resent your word choice of “servitude”. It’s exactly this attitude that is the problem. You think making a home for your family, making traditions, being the anchor of your family and a partner to your husband is servitude. Shame on you. I am no more a servant in my family than you are in yours. [/quote]

I think it's more offensive that women are socialized and expected to do all the ir most the work that goes into making a holiday special (planning, prepping, shopping, cooking and cleaning) and men are socialized to to sit on the couch. My mom was a homemaker for most of my childhood and my dad was a surgeon. He loves cooking and his is a fantastic baker. He always was responsible for washing the dishes and helping clean up after dinner.  [/quote]

+1. Promoting “Homemaking” is asking all your children to help clear the table. Promoting “Servitude” is asking only your daughter to help while your son sits with the menfolk. See the difference? [/quote]

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