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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Lol. 2nd wife/husband will never come before the kids. I thought everyone knew that. Apparently not

And that's exactly the way it should be. I'm still mx ex-husband's beneficiary because I take care of his kids. Kids first. Always. Second spouses who don't understand the pecking order are in for a world of pain. I say this as a divorced mom who is set to remarry a divorced dad and is working on the prenup that protects our kids from their step-parent.[/quote]

First of all, they also have a child together. Secondly, this is not putting the second wife ahead of the kids. The guy has two houses and kids from two different mothers. It is about providing *something* to his younger child and the woman he lives with. It doesn't have to be all or nothing, but in this case, it seems like nothing.

I come from a complicated family. My mom remarried a man who had kids. He's passed away. I just helped her do her will and encouraged her to leave $ to my stepsister and her kids. Yes, much of it is going to me, my brother and our kids, but they are part of our family. I also accept that my father has decided to leave half his property to his current wife--my stepmom--even though she is extremely wealthy (like, 20mm) and has no kids of her own. that's his choice, though I hope he will leave something to his grandkids.

In this case, I think that morally OP's "fiance" is an ass for not ensuring some future stability for his 7 year old and 7 year old's mom (OP). At this rate, if he were to die tomorrow, she and their child would be out on the street while his adult children (who presumably are independent) would inherit everything--as far as we know, not only the 2 houses, but retirement, investments, etc. That is no way to treat someone you have been with for years and who is the parent of your child. He should at least ensure the child has signfiicant support. [/quote]

The only thing I don't like about your argument is that you see a 50-year old woman as essentially another child who has to be taken care of like she's seven.[/quote]

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