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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]and I don't know what to do about it.  It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters.  I am miserable[/quote]

Cool outgoing rich parents come to you. They size you up pretty quickly and invite you into their circle if they deem you a peer. They can glance at your LinkedIn and Facebook for 30 seconds to see the friends you have in common, where you went to college, where you work, and where you live. Zillow stalking takes another 30 seconds. I'm afraid they don't see you as being on their level. But it sounds like your kids are having better luck and that's what it's all about, right?[/quote]

We are nobodies (feds in a small house with no social cred) and our kids are at the Cathedral schools.  IME some of the most connected, wealthiest parents are actually the nicest and most inclusive.  It's the strivers (who are far more like us on paper then they'd ever admit) that can be mean. 
It's a tale as old as time.  If you've really "made it" then you're free to be nice to the small people--many of whom are actually very interesting people.  If you're continually clawing and insecure you're often preoccupied by who else may move into your spot. [/quote]

We’re there too and are private firm nobodies and we… don’t care? At all? Is this really odd? I’m confused. It’s my kids school not a social club like wtf[/quote]

No, you are normal. OP is the weirdo who thinks a private school buys parents a new friend group.[/quote]

DP. You sound familiar. Do you realize your kids know how cruel you are and they tell their friends that they hate you? They actually talk about you this way because you are so cruel.

There is nothing wrong with OP wanting to feel comfortable at her kids' school. She is new and it is NORMAL for her to want to have parents that say hello and make small talk. She never once said she is trying to get into a certain social crowd. What I find interesting is that a guilty conscience needs no accuser rings true here because you seem to know that maybe you and your vapid group could possibly be who she is talking about? 
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Oy vey, we can all read between the lines. People obviously smile and nod to her. She made this thread because she feels entitled to more, which is weird and striver-ish. Tuition doesn’t also include a handful of new best friends for the parents. She and her husband should already have friends, and not be so thirsty to make new ones. Their thirst comes from the desire to social climb. Unless you’re some rich or powerful family who just moved to the area, if you don’t  already know at least one and/or have any mutual friends with these parents at the new school, you’re never going to be friends with them. You are seen a non-entity. You’ve been in Washington for XX years and don’t have any mutual friends, don’t run in the same circles… you’ve been socially sorted long before you applied to this school.[/quote]
 NP, this PP is off. Such a sad weirdo.
Good luck staying away from people like this PP, OP. 
I think you are not a "striver" for wanting people to have basic social skills and to know how to be welcoming to newcomers in general. 
I think this PP is probably a high social climber themselves, that's why they think everyone else is...[/quote]

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