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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]to the poster who says that 5 children by age 26 is normal outside eastern urban areas of the states, is that really true????

im somewhat willing to listen seeing as when i travel in the midwest people think im my child's grandmother (much better alternative than my other conclusion,which is i just look old).[/quote]

I lived on the west coast (Orange County, San Diego County, and Los Angeles County) from the ages of 13-30, and I can tell you it was definitely not the "norm" amongst my peers.  I had my first child at age 24, and was considered "young".[/quote]

Oh yes, comparing San Diego, Los Angeles, and Washington DC gives a great perspective on life in rural Louisiana.  Yep, that just about covers the whole middle part of the country.[/quote]

The PP said it was normal  outside eastern urban areas.   Los Angeles is not an EASTERN urban area.[/quote]

You must be pretty stupid if comparing Los Angeles and rural Louisiana makes sense to you.[/quote]

I grew up in a rural area and many people I knew had babies right out of high school.  Some got married and some of those couples were divorced by the time they were 25-30.  I didn't get married until I was 26 and I had my first baby at 27 and the second at 28 which makes me an old mom by the standards in my hometown. Living here the parents of my children's peers are older than I am by five to ten years. 
 My HS friends have kids that are freshmen in college or seniors in HS.  Several of them have children with different men and others have five or six children with the same man but they never married but have been engaged to for the last 10-15 years.
I judge this woman, not because of the number of children she had, or the fact that she was living in a trailer.  I judge her because she left her children without supervision and they died as a result of her neglect.  I feel for her one surviving child and how terrible it must be to lose his siblings so suddenly.  I can only imagine he has survivor's guilt and thinks he should have been there to protect his younger siblings even though chances are he too would have died.  He may even think that he should have died right along with them.
I can't imagine the guilt the mother must be feeling over the loss of her children.  I hope to God she was off trying to provide for those children and not out trying to find another Daddy for them.  
I too wonder where the father(s) is(are) and wonder how they are coping with the loss of their child(ren).  They must wonder why they left all the kids in the care of this woman who obviously didn't have help or a support system in place.  I know how difficult it is with 2 on my own (DH works 90-100 hours a week and has been gone for 6-8 months at a time) but even without family in the area I was still able to find a support system.  [/quote]

Double Amen![/quote]

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