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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Who in the hell is forcing women to terminate pregnancies?!  I'm 04/22/2012 09:14 and am very pro-choice but that doesn't mean I think women should be coerced or force to abort!  Speak up where this is happening and I'm sure we can get DCUM to start a rally.

If, instead, your point is that women shouldn't terminate based on their perception that having a SN child is difficult and costly, well, I think everyone knows by now that my experience shows that it is difficult and it is costly.  If I were to get support I'll be happy to join your chorus that it's not different than raising a typical child but, right now, that's just not true.  It's very hard and while I love my kids and the experience has made me a better person, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Still waiting for those organizations people said would provide support to families like mine....

Well, from reading this thread it would seem that a lot of people feel it is a person's civic duty to rid the world of disabled kids by aborting. Just to eliminate kids from being a burden on everyone around them, of course. So PP do you wish you had known of your children's disabilities so you could have terminated them? How can we really make generalizations about all disabled kids being so horribly financially and emotionally draining that people should terminate when the types of disabilities a person can have are so variable.[/quote]

I have NEVER asserted that people should terminate SN kids.  I firmly believe that abortion is strictly a personal decision.  What I have been vocal about is refuting that bullshit assertion that raising SN kids is not much different or more costly than typical kids.  Maybe not for the wealthy but it is definitely different for those of us who aren’t.

Over the last few days, I've read every post on this thread.  I can't recall a single instance where someone seriously advocated ridding the world of disabled kids.  I've seen plenty of posters proclaiming that's what people are trying to do but I've not seen anyone advocating for it.  I've also seen a lot of posts that if you don't think you can raise a SN kid that you shouldn't have kids at all.  But, stating that it's our "[i]civic duty to rid the world of disabled kids by aborting[/i]"?  No, that' not what this thread has been about.  Your repetition of this reminds me of the “death panel” bullshit the republicans spun to derail health care legislation.

Do I wish my I would have aborted my SN kids?  I actually did have a choice and could have but my DH and I thought the better choice was to keep them.   If I had to do it over again, one of them I would definitely not want to terminate.  One of them, sometimes I wish I had.  Yeah, I’m sure you’re horrified by that – flame away.  I don’t care about your opinion.  You’re not walking in my shoes, paying my bills or wiping my kid’s ass because he can’t do it for himself.  Why shouldn’t someone spare themselves from what I’m going through?  Why don’t you put your money where your mouth is and hook me up with someone who can provide us the assistance some say is readily available for families like mine?  When you can make raising SN kids as easy as raising typical kids, I’ll listen to you. Until then, you have no credibility.
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PP, are you the one from NOVA?  In case you aren't, and you live in DC, please look into Katie Beckett health care waiver.  I posted about this a few pages back, but in case you missed it, I strongly urge you to see if your kids are eligible.  Even with all the resources at your fingertips, raising a disabled child will never be the same as raising a NT kid, but having social services like KB waiver will definitely help bridge that gap.  Sending big hugs to you.
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