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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If more people are like op it will make me want to avoid any conversations with young moms for fear of insulting them while trying to be human and connect.

So, congrats, I guess[/quote]

I guess if you’re deliberately obtuse and persist in unsolicited advice and “just you waits” verses, you know, smiling at someone or greeting someone and saying they have a cute baby, then yeah. I think young moms will be better off if you do leave them be. If “little kids, little problems” is your idea of a warm conversation starter, they are better off being left alone. [/quote]

But the post is about “cherish these moments” not what you are referring to. [/quote]

No one has actually said to her the things she claims, she’s just mad at life and looking for something to vent about. Strangers are not walking around telling women “you think this is hard????? Just you wait!!!!” in a menacing tone. It’s just not happening. [/quote]

It actually does! I’ve had women joke “wait till he is a teenager!” when my kid was crying in target. I’m sure she meant it light heartedly. But it didn’t hit right , and just made me think “so it never gets easier?!” I actually cried when I got back to my car. People just need to think before they speak sometimes that’s all. [/quote]

My heart goes out to you. I had a "crying in the Target parking lot" moment with my baby too.

To the PP who is being rude to you: guess what, moms of babies actually are fragile in ways they can't help. One reason they wind up crying in parking lots is because they are often on hormonal roller coasters that make them very susceptible to emotional triggers. Through no fault of their own, it's just what their bodies are doing. So when you are rude to people who recently gave birth, it's like kicking someone in a cast.

It's amazing how even with people talking more about PPD and PPA, everyone still forgets that new moms are going through a massive hormonal and emotional ordeal. Yes, some moms don't feel it as acutely. But some do. I cried all the time for the first 4 months of my kids life. It's not because I was weak, it's because that was my body's response to a lot of stuff.[/quote]

AMEN! I remember one time feeling very proud of myself for taking my infant daughter with me to run some errands when I was finally able to drive and move about freely after a C-section; I was finally at a place where I could try BF in public with a cover. A mom came up to chat with me at the library and when she complimented my daughter, I thanked her and said I was nervous but glad because this was our first time out and about. She looked at me like I was a freak and said, "You've got to get out there, can't stay locked inside your house forever." I cried in the car and felt like...locking myself in my house forever.[/quote]

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