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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SO weird she asked to come! Bold and rude.[/quote]

[quote]Aren't we always saying "ask to join" to people who want to make friends?  No she wasn't rude for asking.[/quote]

NP. I don't think she was rude for asking per se, but I certainly think there are better and worse ways of asking, and some are more rude than others. You don't put someone else on the spot like this -- not if you are thoughtful and care about them. It's polite to leave a clear "out" open.

I can't imagine NOT leading in with something like, "Is your book club even open to new people joining? If they are ..." etc. I mean, of course. If it were just a bald "Hey! Can I come, too?" then there is something rude about that. [/quote]

It's also rude to talk about groups that another person wouldn't be permitted to join.[/quote]

I can’t join my neighbors country club. I guess they shouldn’t take their kids swimming or play tennis. Or maybe they can but have to go in their regular clothes so I don’t know. [/quote]

Dp If you don't know the difference between a country club and an informal FREE book club. I am not sure what to say.  If I was op and I wanted to exclude this "friend" than I would say we don't really talk about books but, gossip so you might not be interested.[/quote]

It's not a book club for OP's friends. It's a book club for preschool moms who have known each other for years, and OP is a MEMBER of this group. It is not an "OP's Friends Book Club."[/quote]

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