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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Women take much harder financial hit due to child birth and career setbacks vs men, and that's a proven statistical fact" -- they weren't going to have superstar careers so the "hit" is knocking them from a low level to a somewhat lower level, and meanwhile they spent years having all their food, clothing, and shelter paid for.[/quote]

Stop stating things as fact that just aren’t.  When I quit to be a SAHM - which my husband and I agreed upon - my DH and I were both in BigLaw and I earned more.  Yep, for 15 years my DH has paid for my food and clothing and our houses, as well as tons of travel, gifts, private school and college tuition for our kids, and everything else in our life.  I gave up a huge salary and significant retirement savings, and that’s a fact - I probably outearned you because I was statistically in the top 5%, so definitely not the “low level” you imagine of SAHM.  I have friends who stay home and who were also lawyers, doctors and C Suite execs in their past.  You are clearly misogynistic so could not attract the kind of woman who achieved a lot in her own life before becoming a SAHM.  Too bad.[/quote]

Thank you for commenting, and in addition to what you said, an average age difference when couples get married is 2-3 years. The difference in incomes could easily come from the fact that husbands already had 3 years of professional careers by the time they get married! It easily translates into 20-40K salary gap, since men on average are offered higher salaries when they begin careers just because of gender discrimination. 
Then, the wife gives birth and presumably takes 6 months at home with the baby. She's already out of consideration for a promotion in highly competitive places like law firms or finance. So add up all these differences, the woman falls behind 5 years from the start. Then, if husband's career requires more overtime/travel or they have a SN child, ultimately it's the woman for whom it makes mores sense to become a part-time or a SAHM

It's highly discriminatory and disrespectful to women stating that they went SAHM because "they didn't have stellar careers to begin with". What a jerk that male PP is![/quote]

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