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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't read all these posts but my wife and I are heading for divorce and it's a total fiction that she gave up some high powered job to be a SAHM. She will come out the other side far more wealthy than if she stayed single, with about 1.5m in the back at age 44. She has an undergrad in sociology.

I have no problem with short term alimony while she gets back on her feet and no problem with child support. That she isn't going to have the same lifestyle as me going forward is just the price of exit. Life isnt fair. I didn't want the be divorced either and while I recognize my faults, she is just as at fault for us not working out. [/quote]

This.  Hardly being thrown into poverty.  [/quote]

But she could have had a healthy salary of $100K and nice retirement of her own. PP, why didn't she work? How many kids did you have, did you help her around the house? What caused the divorce?[/quote]

She recently got a job making 65k. In her field, 100k is possible but that's about the ceiling. She decided not to go back to work, I supported the decision, I didn't pressure her either way. I helped around the house but of course most fell on her. I acknowledge her being at home was an assist, perhaps a big assist to me but I was going to be successful either way, not taking away her contribution, of course.

What caused divorce, no one thing, we let a decade of resentment build up but got to the point where we were tired of working on our relationship. Yes, sexless marriage which is sad for two healthy fun people, but it's a symptom and a cause. She now doesn't want to divorce but she doesn't like living in DC either. She frankly doesn't know what she wants but at some point I am allowed to be free of her pathos as well. [/quote]

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