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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a guy who would satisfy OP's criteria (more than, actually), and I would not be interested in the least. I have more than enough money to entertain myself, so I would rather have the company of someone more charming. I assume that was the case with OP's husband as well. If she couldn't hold onto one rich guy, why would she hold onto another?

Also, most rich guys aren't too impressed with a mid-level GS who happened into a lot of money through divorce. Kind of gives me the willies.[/quote]

OP here: I was making more than my exH (in business) than he was making at his corporate career.  Plus I was the default parent while he was out of country 100 days/year. You are terribly prejudiced and don't respect women's contribution in marriage. My exH was kind of similar, thought his position at corporate ladder was placing me so much below (by the end of the marriage). It gave him a sense he could go around f.k different "charming" women. He would never recognize that he achieved his corporate titles thanks to me being a default parent and him having a full freedom). I married him when he was a regular specialist.

Yes, I fought in divorce and proved my contribution was worthy of my settlement, and took the whole business from him. He can enjoy his title and 401k. Kudos to judges. [/quote]

Too bad the judges can't force a rich guy to be interested in you.[/quote]

I am glad a rich married guy who posted above and writes just like my exH would not be interested. I weed out these narc types on a spot. [/quote]

Listen, if you want to date a rich guy, you need to ask yourself what you bring to the table OTHER THAN MONEY. That guy is not interested in the money. And most definitely that guy is not going to be interested in someone who got some passive income in a divorce settlement.

You can meet all sorts of rich guys if you think for a minute: the country club, opera, art galleries, boating, etc. etc. But getting someone financially compatible to be interested is a whole other story, and your attitude about money is not going to help.[/quote]

I didn't get  a "passive income" in divorce, here's what shows your prejudice to women in general.  It is my business since the very beginning. It's not a passive income.  I've always had this business, developed and grew it over the course of marriage having a much higher involvement than my exH. I repaid nearly $1.5mm collaterized loans; had personal and credit card debt during constructions, was a signatory on all purchasing, financing and refinancing deals, dealt with all business development, client book, taxes etc. I have W2 employees at my business. Plus I worked full time at a 2nd job to maintaining the borrowing capacity for the family: without my second W2 employment there wouldn't be a business at all!
I feel like anytime a woman has a business the presumption is that she got it from an exH. No, I had to buy him out from the business to retain it. He got cash and 401k, I got the business as contributed more personal time, funds and efforts in its' development and was more fit to manage it (as officialized by the judge).

I don't have an "attitude" about money. Wanting an equal is not an attitude: it's a starting point because I've invested many years of my life in climbing to where I am here right now. And I want to be with someone driven, not a "couch professor".

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You do have an attitude about money and every single post you’ve been completely transactional about a relationship. [/quote]

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