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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We just live in a very different community and culture than most of you. Most of our friends send their kids to summer camp for 2 weeks a summer at age 7, most families go away childless for a week, grandparents are involved in many families lives... I just can’t relate to a lot of what is being said here.

The child’s grandmother is very close to my children and involved in their life. It’s good for kids to spend time with grandparents. Don’t take something good and make it into something evil. [/quote]

Yes, healthy and confident and comfortable grandparents are excellent caregivers. So are camp counselors, youth group trip leaders, etc. No one is saying kids should be with their parents at all times.

What we ARE saying is that if any caregiver—a grandparent, an aunt, a cousin, a camp counselor—express inability to care for a child at any time for any reason, you listen and you make other arrangements.

Argue with that. Go on, argue with that. I’d love to hear it.[/quote]
I hope your nanny backs out on you last minute because now she’s uncomfortable. When nothing has changed in the agreement. And I hope it costs you lots of money in lost wages.  I’m sure you’ll smile and say “oh a caregiver can back out at any time if they feel unable to care for the child”. [/quote]

I don’t have a nanny, we have a before and after care center that shut down during some portions of COVID. DH and I talked with our bosses and worked out some flexible schedules, and had to take some leave sometimes. What, you think we should have beat on the door and demanded that someone else watch our kids?

For vacations, we usually take the kids. When we don’t, we ask my parents or DH’s parents, or sometimes my aunt who lives local or my cousin who is local.

We’ve actually faced cancellations in recent memory, as my aunt got COVID one weekend where DH and I were supposed to go by ourselves to a wedding. I ended up going myself, as I knew the bride and groom, and DH stayed home.  That’s life. Oh well. Sometimes things go according to plan, sometimes they don’t. I didn’t scream at my aunt for getting COVID.

You tried it, though.  :lol: [/quote]

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