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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH. I was “beaten” as a child. And I beat my kids. 🙄

Here’s the deal. I’m a guy. There were basically two kinds of corporal punishment when I was a kid. One was the angry swat to your butt, or when you’re a smart ass 12 year old, a slap to your face. Those I don’t recommend, but totally understand that it happens.

The other kind, which I fully endorse, and have implemented, is the calm, old school, “you disobeyed/lied/were totally defiant/ignored two warnings, and now you’re going to go over my knee and get a spanking.” Those are extremely effective because you know that it’s based on your actions, not on your parents’ anger.

And because it’s effective, it’s not something that’s happening all the time by any means, like some people will suggest is necessary for other discipline. [/quote]

Continuing for some of the comments.

Yeah, it’s embarrassing to be turned over your parent’s knee and spanked, especially if it warranted a bare butt spanking.

It’s more than a “tap” and less than a full “hit.”

For some of us, in particular, who have perfectionist tendencies, other punishments were far worse, and carried more adverse side effects, if that makes sense, because they go on for a lot longer, so you’re living with the guilt and disappointment a lot longer. That was always my take on it, as a nine year old.[/quote]

As a perfectionist I wished my parents went back to spanking because the grounding and punishment made me upset. It lasted way too long and everyone knew I was in trouble. And I loathed it.[/quote]

Exactly. There were a few times I was not spanked and should have been, but the lectures and grounding instilled in me that “disappointment,” and I actually started exhibiting some anxiety tics.[/quote]

Yes. I actually do think some psychologists are on to something when they talk about grounding and punishments may not be helpful. There were so many times as a pre-teen and teen where I was "grounded" things like can't go to the movies, can't go to the mall that weekend, can't talk on the phone, cell phone taken away for a couple days after school. This is the stuff that had me boiling. And now that I think about it most of my friends also resented their parents for stuff like this and we were all spanked. I remember one friend committed suicide over one of her punishments which was she had to stay home that weekend. It's extreme but punishments really made me upset. It just lasted too long.[/quote]

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