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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Want to hear something really mean?  My 13 yo DD, went to volleyball practice and she was the only one who showed up.  She was worried that she was early or late.  Until her coach came out.  The coach informed me that one of the girls on the team was having a slumber party and that is why there was no one there. Obviousy my DD wasn't invited.  When she got to school the next Monday she found out why.  Because she was too tall and "annoying" according to the Queen Bee.  So refreshingly honest, don't you think?[/quote]

Not the same.  Potty mouth can change her behavior.  She was told by someone that her potty mouth is offensive.  Your daughter can't change being tall.  Different issues entirely and in your daughter's case, mean and sucky behavior.  Sorry that happened.[/quote]

The "potty mouth" was SEVEN.  And do you guys really believe that a seven year old girl talks poop and farts all the time?  Am I the only one who sees this for what it is? An excuse to exclude the girl.  Who knows what the real reasons are, but I've been around a LOT of little girls (as I have children that age) and this is not something that happens ALL the time.

Yes, there were a bunch of kids excluded.  But it is just bad form to not reciprocate a birthday party invitation (especially at that age) when the birthday parties are so close in date (the same weekend, no less).  There were so many better ways to handle this situation, but clearly the dad here will refuse to look at it from any other person's point of view.  He values only the people who agree with him and ignores everybody else (and no, Dad, it isn't just 2 or 3 people disagreeing with you, I can assure you of that).

The sad thing here is that this type of "mean girl" behavior is implicitly being condoned by her parents, and will likely lead to bigger problems down the road.  If it were me, I'd be more interested in teaching my child to be compassionate and nice to everybody, then right (which is clearly the only thing this Dad cares about).[/quote]

First, Dad admitted that he could have handled it better at the other girl's party by addressing the fact that they were having a small party and hoped it was OK.  He admitted that.  Would you like him to flog himself publicly?
Second, seven is not too young to start learning lessons that you need to behave and not talk in certain ways.  Dad has said these girls were otherwise friends, and when put on the spot, a SEVEN year old (as you said) reacted in a way that was blunt and maybe too honest.  But the other girl can learn from this.
Either the seven year old is too young or she's too old for some of you.  At the end of the day, the SEVEN year old is the one who communicated this message to the other girl, not the dad.  Why is it HIS fault?  He tried to talk her into inviting the girl, she declined, and when put on the spot, didn't react like a mature adult would have.  Because she's SEVEN.  [/quote]

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