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Well, you clearly aren't interested in any constructive feedback people are providing about helicoptering. Doesn't the very fact that the company is called "Mama Bear" say anything to you about the appropriateness of this? You all think you have open, caring relationships, but yet, you need legal forms to know your kids' grades? If the smothering is so effective, why aren't they just telling you their grades? If your child is incapacitated, you do not need legal forms to act in his interest. That legal form is only so you can monitor if they get an STD and a prescription for birth control. The debate is standard because it's so unfuriating to read stuff like this. These poor 18-year-olds![/quote]

JFC you're an idiot, and I hope no one takes your "constructive feedback" seriously. You're demonstrably ignorant as to why parents need these forms. (Also, it's "infuriating" not "unfuriating").

I'm an attorney and even I'm not going to try to draw up my own forms for ensuring I have a healthcare proxy, HIPAA and FERPA waiver, and durable/medical powers of attorney in case of emergency, whether physical, mental, or financial. I want to be able to get information on his condition from hospital personnel who are otherwise *not allowed* to give me that information if my child can't consent verbally to disclosure. I want to be able to make healthcare decisions for him if he's unconscious. I also want to be able to contact his school and get a list of his professors to let them know he's in the hospital. If he studies abroad, I need to be able to complete tasks for him like completing financial transactions.

My spouse and I have these forms for each other, because we're responsible adults. It's not "helicoptering" my spouse to have him sign these forms. Neither is it "helicoptering" my child to have him sign the same forms. It's about commonsense preparation for emergency situations.[/quote]

Agree, and I also had these forms with my elderly parents. This is just smart legal planning for family members. You're cutting off your nose to spite your face if you think not doing this is making your kid more independent than mine.  I am interested in where the attorney that I am responding to is getting their forms from if they are not comfortable doing it on their own.  Last time I did these we had pre-paid legal which I don't at the moment and I don't want to pay attorney fees if I can avoid.[/quote]

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