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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's flat out depressing. I feel like I failed my child and I am not sure what else could have been done but all those years of striving for excellence, working so hard, dong so many ECs, choosing the hardest classes possible to impress colleges - it was all for nothing.   With a virtual perfect academic record and a host of passionate ECs, he's rejected/wl everywhere he really wants to go.

[b]He is in a safety schools that literally the class clowns get accepted to.[/b]   I'm so sick of talking to people about it, everyone in our community assumed he was going to a T5 school - he is practically famous for being so smart - like photographic memory genius smart and they ask me about it constantly.   [b]They cant conceal their shock when I tell them the options. I cant deal with the reactions anymore.[/b][/quote]

This is a sad post.

I hope your child has better luck on Ivy Day. [/quote]

I say this with kindness that if you aren’t happy with his choices, to some extent you are telegraphing that to others.  It’s like when there is a project at work that has a fire drill, if the person comes in with the attitude that all is lost, everyone panics and it amps up the emotions, if you come in calm and assured, that puts the focus on moving forward.  You also have the option to say that he doesn’t know yet where he is going - that’s what I say because decisions are still coming in and I want to let my child decide what disappointments with waitlists etc that they choose to share.   Also, given that many private colleges are upwards of 70K per year, people understand that kids will pick where their family can afford and what might be the better choice for their field of study (like people hoping to go to medical school don’t want to go into debt undergrad if they don’t have to).  So personally I would assume a top student had merit and/or honors at a given school unless you told me the reason that they were going there was because there were no other choices.

I know for both you and son it’s a disappointment.  I remember giving advice to someone with a freshman in high school and said - Yes, keep in mind what are the stats needed to get a strong consideration at our state flagship which has much higher stats than when we applied to college, but at the end of the day there are no guarantees so they need to live their life and enjoy what they are doing in high school and just cast a wide net when looking at colleges to apply to.
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