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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are all naive about those things, dear. It's baptism by fire. You don't know what you're in for until you're in it. [/quote]

Yes but they both parents need to step up.

I think the rub here is OPs spouse agreed to be primary parent yet[b] only wants to do daily execution stuff [/b]like feed child dinner and bedtime early.

Who checks the clothing sizes, car seats, age appropriate toys or classes or day care, or books, or dr appts, or family trips and social calendar, or schools, or the household stuff like food or paper products, vehicle oil changes, lawn or landscape maintenance, household repairs, etc.? The parent working with clients 60 hours a day or the 40-45 hour flex job parent who volunteered to be Primary Parent, or both and what’s the split? [/quote]

Don't minimize what that daily part is though. Daycare dropoff in the AM and pickup, dinner, bath, bedtime. At toddler age that is super consuming stuff and it's exhausting. A lot of this "mental load" / ordering things online is stuff most ppl do while listening in on a work conference call. Some of the stuff you list is very occasional and a little kid doesn't need classes or curated toys.[/quote]

Great then he can do half of it. get him going. [/quote]

It sounds like she is working late every night and Dad is doing everything after work/weekends. [/quote]

She was clear she does 2 weekdays and he does 4. Plus he’s just check the box transactional. Then does Me Time after 7:30pm.  Wait until his kid goes to bed at 9pm, what’s he gonna do for 3rd and 4th grade? [/quote]

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