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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To all the PPs on this thread who are not actual adoptive parents please stop!! [/quote]

OP’s thread title is “Tell me about adoption”.  Adoption ruined my mother’s life, brought her to attempt suicide many times and have extensive inpatient hospitalizations throughout my childhood.  Her experience is unfortunately very common among relinquishing mothers who were told they were doing the best thing for themselves and for their baby but instead faced a lifetime of anxiety, regret, self-recrimination, and terror.  OP needs to understand the coercive practices involved in infant adoption and understand that the full picture is not often ever understood or even considered by adoptive parents, whose experience is, for the most part a joyful one: they got what they wanted.  So of course the adoptive parent voices here are almost all vitriolically and viciously awful toward those of us who exhort prospective adoptive parents to consider the adoption industry as a whole and the harm it does.

The adoptive parent perspective is only one small part of the adoption circle.  The fact that they are satisfied is a given in most cases other than those where a child’s background or health status has been misrepresented.  Some of us are posting here to urge her to seek out adoptee advocacy groups, voices of relinquishing mothers, and vast studies and publications around corruption and coercion in the adoption industry.  [/quote]

How  many years ago was your mother's adoption?  There are so  many other factors to this including pre-existing mental health issues.  This is not the situation for every birthmother, just yours.  An adoptive parent cannot fix a birthparents mental health.[/quote]

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