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I wouldn’t call these young pretty women who seek exit from that reality “mail order” brides. They are indeed in most cases fluent in English, have in-demand college degrees (on top of being very attractive). It’s basically “brain drain” out of these countries, it’s just women have more choices vs men how  to flee and get access to new economic opportunities. I know several from my exH circle in DC area: he worked for WB/IFC. His US friends married exceptionally attractive women from Eastern Europe. All the wives quickly adopted and work. I’m some cases, out-earned husbands in 10 years or so.
Yes, these women were poor in terms of assets when they got married, but they had very expensive (by US standards) education. IT, engineering, doctors, lawyers, biotech etc. Once they confirm  these degrees in the US, it’s the same deal for a husband as marrying a Yale graduate. Except he gets a very good looking wife with parents abroad without any “luggage” and of child bearing age. This is a major “step up” for upper middle class American husbands vs their selection in the US. They basically marry up to a higher social class from a poorer country vs their own social circle in the US. Many women I know are well traveled, play expensive sports like tennis, swimming, skiing,  horse riding, play  musical instruments etc. This type of upbringing is very cheap in Russia but expensive and only available to a few in the US. They can socialize with executive level friends or colleagues of their husbands rising his social standing and international connections. [/quote]

I am active in the Russian-speaking parent community in the DMV.  The type of woman you describe is much more likely to immigrate on her own merits, most typically for graduate-level education, and then settle in the US via employment or marriage to someone she met while at university.  The "wives" who arrived here via marriage to middle-class American husbands are, in general, quite provincial in their outlook, mindset, and um...aesthetic choices.  [/quote]

I am also pretty active in Russian-speaking community in DC metro area, and I simply ever met the type of a "provincial" bride you describe, or a "Barby" with silicone and botox married for money only. Yes, these Eastern European wives often already had one foot abroad (with scholarships, fluent English, relatives living in the US etc.) They were actively seeking to marry on international websites, which is what's commonly called "mail order" bride. Even those from provincial towns with lesser skills or degrees became nurses, accountants, paralegals and perfectly adapted. They are presumed to be mail order brides, but in reality they aren't.
This is immigration of brains into the US, like with any other countries (China, India etc.)[/quote]

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