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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think OP is being unfairly criticised here.

Some of you seem to think that OP should be making decisions about her aunt's end of life care. Why? She is her aunt's NIECE, not her aunt's daughter. 
OP stated from the start that she comes from a large family with 30+ nieces and nephews. Why should OP make all the effort here while other family members can sit back and have a nice life?

OP just happens to be the one who is physically there in person. This doesn't mean she should be burdened with end of life decisions.
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This is correct. Thank you. Add to this, that my aunt gave another niece medical power of attorney and a friend power of attorney. I have no legal power at all. All I can do is ensure she doesn’t die in her own waste, in dire pain, since there is no hospice bed. I am grateful for the very caring social worker, very caring hospice nurse/aids/clergy, and a very caring friend who my aunt sometimes treated like garbage.  [/quote]

Call 911 and get her transported to the hospital now.  That is what you can do and they'll have to make a discharge plan and cannot release her without one.

Talk to the friend/niece about putting her in a nursing home.  Find a bed and they can authorize it if you are worried.  Most nursing homes will not care who has POA.  You can also file for legal guardianship.  The friend who has POA can take over the money and start paying you the mortgage money since that is a priority for you.  Aunt cannot handle her own money.

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The f-ing mortgage money is not a priority for me. I could care less. The hospice will not move her to a hospice against her will since she is mentally competent. The medical power of attorney only kicks in if she is found not competent of making her own decisions.

"A Medical Power of Attorney is a legal instrument that allows you to select the person that you want to make healthcare decisions for you[b] if and when you become unable to make them for yourself. "[/b][/quote]

Then, you take her to the hospital for care and let them make a discharge plan.  Yes, its about the money or you would not have brought it up.  From what you are saying, she isn't mentally competent.  [/quote]

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