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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think OP is being unfairly criticised here.

Some of you seem to think that OP should be making decisions about her aunt's end of life care. Why? She is her aunt's NIECE, not her aunt's daughter. 
OP stated from the start that she comes from a large family with 30+ nieces and nephews. Why should OP make all the effort here while other family members can sit back and have a nice life?

OP just happens to be the one who is physically there in person. This doesn't mean she should be burdened with end of life decisions.
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I think most people are saying the opposite of that.  OP should go.  Her aunt should be making her own decisions about her end of life care.  If she wants to die at home alone, then she should be able to do that.  If she wants to sell her house to pay for end of life care instead of leaving it to OP, then she should be able to do that too.  OP and her husband made a stupid financial decision with the house when they didn’t actually foreclose on the house and legally put it in their names when the aunt stopped paying her mortgage and they let her live there.   This isn’t the social worker’s fault.  At all.  [/quote]

The house does not need to be sold.  Medicaid puts a lien on the house.  However, aunt is not in a position if she's end of life and that sick to care for herself and that is the issue.[/quote]

She
Doesn’t
Qualify
For
Medicaid

Too much income.[/quote]

YES SHE DOES.  There are different kinds of medicaid.  Regular medicaid does not pay for nursing homes.  Its a special waiver program that has different eligibility limits.  If she's only making $3000-4000 a month, she will qualify.  Or, you can take that money she does have and pay for aids.   She can be denied regular medicaid and still get long term care medicaid.[/quote]

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