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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not once has OP said what the grandparents want to do. It's their house, OP, what do THEY want to do?[/quote]

I've said multiple times that they originally liked the plan, but are now concerned that their child is upset, and hope to find a solution that pleases everyone. [/quote]

But who suggested the original plan and how do you know they weren’t initially just trying to please you?[/quote]

DH's oldest sibling suggested that they host, and we laid out that plan.  She then invited both families to spend the night there, since they have more space, and I declined saying we'd rather stay home.  [/quote]

OH MY GOD. No wonder everyone is mad at you. You had the perfect solution and you said no. I can't read anymore.[/quote]

How is that the perfect solution?  And if this sister would have accepted it, why did she also say no?

I assumed they were fine with sleeping at their own house.[/quote]

You didn't say that part. You made it sound like the other two siblings were willing to spend the night at older sibling's house and you said no.[/quote]

It's possible that if I'd said yes, they would have said yes.  Or if I'd said nothing they would have expressed interest in doing it.  But when I said no, I wanted us to have a quiet morning they were like "Christmas morning at home sounds good too."  and we agreed to meet for the afternoon.

Now, was she disappointed and wished I'd said yes?  I don't know.  At that point I took her at her word.   I think that since I didn't choose to sleep over at the in laws until my kids were walking and talking and asking for it, it didn't seem odd to me that a mother with a small baby would want to sleep in her own bed.  So, a week later when she proposed a change, I was surprised.  By that point, the sibling offering their home had made plans to go to her in laws for Christmas Eve, so their house is no longer an option.

As I said above, my guess is that when we planned it she really was OK with the plan, and then she went home and her kids wanted to be with their cousins.  [/quote]

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