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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: Update: he sent a text tonight that said, “I think we should give this another chance…” 
How would you respond (if at all)?[/quote]

I would respond.  But I would confirm what he means by another chance. Does he mean going back to the same as before while you wait/hope he gets to that last 20% before he is willing to plan more than 2 days in advance into the future and talk on the phone OR does he mean he is willing to address some of the things you mentioned when you met up at the coffee shop?  I would have no interest in the return to the status quo.  I would consider giving another chance if he wants to make changes based on our conversation.  However, I would respond in a way that he has to take the lead in telling me what he means - I might say, “okay I’m interested in hearing your reasons why and what would be different the second time around”[/quote]

It looks like OP had this conversation, the guy wasn't willing to commit, then she ended it. Then he asks for the coffee shop meeting, reiterates that he's not ready for even a relationship but may be in the future, but wants her to keep up the current situation that benefits him but not OP. I understood the 80% in as he's 80% on the way to wanting a relationship with OP, not 80% towards marriage. Sorry, but 4 months in with sex and dates 2-3 x/week but still not sure about even having a relationship = unlikely to ever be truly committed to OP.[/quote]

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