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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed. [/quote]

Yeah, why did you continue to go out into the hall each night knowing you would meet her there and have to deal with her? [/quote]

Do you think maybe because OP had to pee and didn’t want to be sitting there uncomfortable, needing to pee for 15 minutes while breastfeeding? -np[/quote]

They both need to use the bathroom every time the baby wakes up? Weird. [/quote]

I think a lot of people need to pee in the middle of the night, especially if they are woken up by something other than their body, like a car alarm. I know I do.[/quote]

So… maybe like MIL, also woken up by something either than her body? [/quote]

Right…so maybe MIL could do as she was asked for several nights in a row, and even before the trip commenced, and leave the parents/baby alone during the one night wake up? Maybe? So maybe like MIL could use the restroom and then go back to bed, instead of loudly talking and generally getting in the way when she had already been told multiple times that the parents didn’t want help? Like, maybe?[/quote]

Like, maybe, but she didn't. Maybe she didn't like being told what to do in her own house, maybe? So, now what? Burn the witch?[/quote]

Oh, there’s no “maybe,” and there’s no “burning.” MIL was free to keep butting in even after she was asked not to. Grandbaby won’t be staying in her home anymore. Oh well! She can roam the halls alone now.[/quote]

This is why it’s never advisable for Grandparents to have a power struggle with the parents. They cannot win and they do long term damage to the relationship. [/quote]

OP said they won't stay there until the baby sleeps through the night. Where do you get that the relationship is over? OP isn't as worked up as her supporters here.[/quote]

I didn’t say over, I said damaged. New babies are an emotional, hormonal time. A wise and supportive MIL follows her son and DIL’s lead so they trust her and find time with her pleasant, which leads to more time with the baby, which leads to a better relationship between MIL and baby, which leads to more trust, etc. Feeling like MIL doesn’t listen to fairly simple requests does the opposite. [/quote]

Overreacting to petty annoyances doesn't build strong family bonds either. Family can be annoying, you have to let things roll off your back sometimes. Why is this a one way street?[/quote]

Because MIL is the one who wants something.  It doesn’t sound like son or DIL had such a great time they’re desperate to be hosted again/spend more time with MIL right now. [/quote]

Life changes after having a baby. It's not easy to travel. It's hard to have an baby in the house when you aren't used to it. Everyone needs to adapt to the new reality and be flexible. Scale back the visits for the time being. Isn't there still a pandemic going on? Why travel with an unvaccinated baby anyway?[/quote]

I’m the PP and I agree they definitely should not be traveling to see MiL, and it sounds like that’s MiLs sons view as well. [/quote]

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